2/23/2016 2 Comments I Changed My Face for $3.95It was a late night a few weeks ago and I was flipping through Netflix to find something interesting to watch. I came across Chelsea Handler Does … The Silicon Valley. If you haven’t watched it, do, because it is really well done. I know that more technology is inevitable, but how is that changing the way we look at ourselves and each other? In the Chelsea Does Series, Khloe Kardashian was one of the people invited over to Chelsea’s house to talk about technology. Kardashian and Leah Remini started talking about an app called “FaceTune” and called it “life changing”. Chelsea protests and says she doesn’t agree with erasing your face, and Khole’s response was, “It’s not real. You are presenting to the world what you want them to believe.” I had to check it out. I paid the $3.95 to download the app that was being raved about from one of the most followed people on Instagram with 25 million followers. In a moment, I understood why they had referred to the app as life changing, because I changed my entire face with this app. With this app you can swipe and erase wrinkles, teeth stain, blemishes, dark circles, track marks, whatever you got they have something that can erase your “imperfection”. In addition to changing all things aforementioned, I also made my eyes bigger, face more narrow, cheekbones higher, and shrunk my forehead. To write this blog, I put it to the test and posted it on facebook to see what the response would be. And it blew me away! I got way more comments below on how beautiful I looked and likes then I normally do when I post a selfie. I’m not trying to say that I think I’m hideous because I’m not, but when I started to look at the original picture and think, “Oh shit, do I need to start handling some aging shit?” That’s when the meat and potatoes of the ripple effect of how apps of photoshopping create an unrealistic expectation of beauty and aging. I can’t shrink my head, I have brains in it. I don’t want to erase my wrinkles because don’t want to forget the life that created them. I love drinking coffee and it stains my teeth, but life is supposed to be lived and enjoyed like a cup of joe in the morning after a night of great sex. What happens when we start to erase and change everything is that we are not loving what is, right now, as you are, which is perfect and beautiful. We all know photoshopping goes on literally all the time, but yet, we still feel the pressure to be perfect. If we are constantly nit picking, editing, deleting, reshaping, contouring, fixing, then we are always saying I’m not good enough the way I am. And who holds women to this standard of perfection of blow outs, nails, wrinkle free perfection? Women. We are constantly comparing ourselves to a fake and unreal standard and then holding other women to the same standard! She’s fat, she’s old, she’s ugly, her hair sucks, this bashing attitude is always geared toward how the woman looks. This is attitude that we are participating in and how is that affecting women as a whole, and especially young women. We do not need make-up all the time to be beautiful. You don’t need to glam out your hair to be beautiful. You don’t need to be half way naked to be beautiful. All you have to do to be beautiful is be YOU. You know what attracts most men or partners? Confidence. It’s not your boobs, eyes, killer eye liner, it’s your confidence. You can be the hottest person in the world and if you aren’t confident, smart, funny, people will get bored of you. Also, if we are basing our self-worth off of solely our looks, then what does the future hold for you? I am making an oath to not contribute to this photoshopped false reality of beauty. Won’t you do the same and start changing the dialogue that women are not just pretty things to look at, but that we are capable, smart, funny, determined, lighthearted, and all these other multi-dimensional aspects that we have as woman. That we don’t have to erase our face to be beautiful. We can just be ourselves. Loving your beautiful soul wherever you are on your path.
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It's Valentine's Day on Sunday and although I know it's a Hallmark holiday, it is always beautiful to celebrate love. Try to celebrate love everyday! These 3 hot tips will definitely help you celebrate love in many different ways. The deeper the connection you create with your partner the more open you can be, hence having a more mind blowing experience. 1.) Make Your Love Making A Ritual The subconscious loves ritual. We see it everywhere in our day to day lives. It’s only getting out of one side of the bed or not washing your lucky socks. Ritual is so powerful and can create deep energetic habits within us. Sometimes we have created a ritual of something that isn’t serving us, or something we aren’t enjoying. For example, maybe when you have sex with your partner you start kissing and then 3 minutes later you are having sex. If this is you let me tell you, you are missing out. You need to make a ritual of taking your time and moving the focus off of just being about the sex and enjoy the process. As a culture we deem everything else other than sex as something that doesn’t count or foreplay. In order to have the connection and mind blowing sex you want you need to take your time and let the energy rise. Women especially need this in order to fully let go and have a memorable experience. If its quick and dirty women are left laying there thinking, “What the f*$@ just happened?” Start the ritual of seduction back into your life. Create a jar of lists of turn ons and have one for you and one for him. The act of thinking of about what turns you on starts to turn you on! Pick one from lady jar once a week or whatever you choose then it’s your partners turn to incorporate that into your week, all week. Make it fun, make it a ritual! 2.) Learn New Tricks In most things in life if we do the same thing all the time we get bored. Look at yourself as a sexual being. Ask yourself what do I need to feel more sexy, confident, present? Turn off the t.v., put down your phone, and spend some time with you! If you don’t spend time loving yourself, learning new tricks, what makes you think your partner will. Look at yourself in the mirror in different positions you want to try or practice dirty talking. One of my favorites is, “You are such a good lover,” so I take time to learn new things so I can hear that more. You didn’t wake up with a college degree, know how to do your job, drive a car, ski down a mountain without learning and seeking knowledge. Just because you have all the equipment doesn’t make you a pro. Sex is the same. If you are reading this article you are on the right track, stay with it! Trying new things is a way to raise the energy between you and your partner. 3.) Look At Each Other & Go Slow Let go of the porno style of having sex. Did you realize that porn stars win awards for their role playing? That means they are faking it. So stop doing rabbit moves and avoiding eye contact. If you do want to go fast, at then know where the G spot is so your thrusting has a purpose. You will never get the connection or dissolve if you just pound away. Again, it might feel good, you may have an orgasm, but trust me on this one, nothing beats breathing, eye gazing, moving slower with your partner, and then going a bit faster. Keeping eye contact is so pivotal in achieving connection with our partners or really anyone. Think of when you are meeting someone new and their eye are darting all around everything else but you. How do you feel? Do you feel seen? Or special? If you don’t feel seen or special just talking to someone with your clothes on if they aren’t looking at you why think that sex is different. We have just become numb to the idea of true connection inundated by a world or porn and Hollywood films of false connection or pleasure. Being present is one of the hardest and sexist things to do when you are with someone. Don’t believe me? Try it for yourself. So go out there create a ritual of loving with new tricks and look at each other! Have fun and learn to trust and lean into your partner, after all you are having sex with them, you should trust them. Light and love. 2/4/2016 2 Comments Let The Pages Bleed...Sometimes when I am alone, I think I’ll be this way forever. Then I think about it more and I realize I am never alone. I feel connected to everything in such a profound way, sometimes I take it for granted. Luckily, I have people in my life that are able to reflect the magnificence of how I perceive the world. No one is an island. I remember wanting to be an island in disguise. Social in nature, but hiding my true self away for safekeeping from the big, bad, ugly world. I was not ready to take the mask off to reveal this deeper side of myself. I have this deep spiritual connection I feel in every moment I exist. I see magic in every moment. I do. I truly do. And I wanted so desperately to hide that sensitivity that I viewed as weakness. I started to see this pattern of shutting down to protect myself. I cut myself off from things to prevent it from becoming potentially painful due to disappointment, betrayal, dishonor, and all the other things that we fear others will do to our fragile hearts. I felt that it was enough to know that I am a sovereign individual underneath the mask. I could keep the special parts of me safe if I could just play all the games to fit in. For who could ever really see me, handle me, or enjoy the intensity of just being around me? Now with some elevated awareness I am to see that I am already am seen, and I don’t need someone to handle me, and I love my intensity. The mask was my own fear. When I pulled it off even further and saw that it was my own lack of self worth. I feel that sometimes saying I had lack of self worth doesn’t even truly describe what that feels like on the inside of your soul. You feel conflicted, unsure, unworthy, stupid, and you constantly try to fit in and do things that you think will make others happy or like you more. You constantly keep giving yourself away to ideas or activities that you know you do not want to do, yet feel unable to stop from doing them. It is the moteum of choosing drama and distraction in your life to give yourself something to talk about to ignore how truly fucking bored and unhappy you really are. You pick up habits that reaffirm all of those horrible things you think about yourself. You think about how horrible you are and you self actualized evidence for that fact regularly. You cling to the material world for a sense of self and worthiness. Even when you get some material gains, it still feels like you come up short. This is because true happiness without the mask on is an inside job. No one can buy it for you, fuck you into feeling it, fly you all around the world, or put a ring on it. It has to be created from the inside of your soul. When we wear the mask over our true soul’s desire we crush our soul and our happiness. We miss out on the greatest gift, life. Being physical. The opportunity to feel, touch, cry, laugh, smile, kiss, to be ourselves. And holding back from who you truly are is the ultimate betrayal … to yourself. So don’t hold back from love, experience, something new, the unknown, just because you scared you’ll get your heart broken. Smash your heart free of the prison of holding any part of who you are back. That’s what I just did and feels like the freedom I had always been searching for. Your turn. |
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