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Thoughts on life...

10/21/2014 2 Comments

What is Romantic Love To You? 

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I sat down to feel into what romantic love is to me. Some of the questions I came up with are as follows and maybe try to answer a few for yourself. 

What is romantic love to you?  
Does it differ from the way that you love your friends or family?  
Are you more loving and accepting of your friends and family and their mistakes than your lover?  
Do you need to have different expectations for your lover because you have a different relationship with them that involves sex?  
How does sex play into romantic love?  Does it expand it or limit it?  
Can we start moving away from time being a measure of success of romantic love? 
Can we wake up and release our romantic loves everyday and practice non attachment?  
Can we love someone in a way that makes them feel free?

I found an old email from a past love of mine and in this letter he writes to me what he believes love is.  I have to say, I agree with them.  

"That night turned what should have been one of the most boring, uneventful periods of my life into 7 of the most amazing months I'll ever know. And somewhere between the ecstasy-fueled nights and the lazy-humid afternoons of last summer, I fell madly in love with a girl.  Sure, there were signs right from the beginning. The energy I gleaned just from being in her presence, the earth-shattering sex, her sense of humor... And it wasn't something that only became true as we said goodbye for the first time last August. It was born of it's own means and took on a life of it's own. To this day, I don't know when exactly it happened. I just knew that I was re-learning what Love is and what Love could be. 


Love is not just a formal agreement to enjoy another person's qualities or company. Love is not just time-tested familiarity. It's not holding hands, kissing, not even fucking, and Love is definitely not present just because you say it is. Love is an uncontrollable, exhilarating, intoxicating force of nature that possesses your heart, mind, and soul rendering you helpless as it charges through you. It can make you fly to the edge of the universe and back and it can crush your soul to the size of a single atom. It can make years go by like seconds and it is the only known way to make time stand still. But at it's best - it's most tender core - Love is being so caught up in the inherent spontaneity, the sense of adventure, the absolute freedom of sweet surrender that you can be certain beyond a shadow of a doubt that nothing else matters. And that? That's how you make me feel. "


I think that is such a beautiful way to describe love.  We can get so caught up in the past or the future that we forget about the present, the now, the what’s in front of me.  Some may call that immature or fleeting or lusty, but I think that is how you maintain your self in love is to be present in every moment of what’s there and not just going through the motions of habit. 

 I define habit as a behavior that we are aware of and keep choosing it for ourselves in a habitual manner.  The main component I feel of romantic love is awareness in all things.  Our love relationships bring out the deepest issues that can normally hide or that might not get trigger by our family and family.  The romantic love is the juice behind the squeeze of self awareness.  

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ASHORI
11/9/2014 01:15:12 pm

So I have been reflecting on this for a bit after reading your post. This is what surfaced:

Love is a state of being. It is that which remains when our fears and desires are taken away. When we love someone we hold their highest purpose the highest expression of who they are as our own. There is no separation in that sense.

Sex is pranic energy that pulses through living beings, it can serve as sort of currency of exchange between people. It leaves a residue in our partner as it interchanges between two bodies and it can be creative or destructive. Due to its pranic nature, it can be directed and controlled by our minds and vice versa.

Romance is an arrangement of external circumstance that manifests as a certain feeling. Unlike love and sex, it is subjective, it doesn't exist unless our minds to receive it as such. Nothing is ever inherently romantic, one person can say it is romantic while the other says no.

Can we continue to love unconditionally even as we sexually desire that person? Another way of phrasing this is can we continue to grant our beloved their freedom, serving their highest self while bound together in a sexual relationship. For me, non-attachment is not the biggest hurdle when it comes to unconditional love. Personally I find the biggest struggle to be a matter of sustainability - can we continue to give our best without expecting to receive in return?

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Jeff
5/21/2015 05:19:07 pm

lts apparent you have seriously given thought to this question. I like where you are going with the analysis. It sounds like a familiar discussion to me because i have pondered on attachment for many years. I waver because being true to oneself may mean being untrue to another. That scenario is not sustainable. feelings of attachment are probably unhealthy in that it likely stems from jealosy which ultimately comes from fear of abandonment. However, most behaviors are rooted in fear, so its likely at least one member of the group will suffer from attachment issues.

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